Offering support to someone with mental illness can be emotionally draining. It gets to a point where you give up, even through you tried to remain positive.
Seeing a person upset creates a very uncomfortable situation. This is because you can’t understand why he or she is angry.
Sometimes you may feel that the person is taking advantage of you; causing anger with the person. So, is it normal to feel angry with people suffering from mental illness? Yes, it is, but you have to show them love always.
Here are some few tips on how to love someone with mental illness;
In today’s world, people will only sympathize with you if your condition is the worst. They will make you feel bad; they’ll state that others are going through worse.
Showing empathy to a person with mental illness shows that you feel their pain, and you are sorry for what they are going through, but you can’t just ease that pain.
Acknowledge that you know what they are undergoing. This helps them accept the feeling and move on.
To be supportive of your friend or loved one, try to understand more how these symptoms affect them. For example, people suffering from anxiety disorder have hard time concentrating which irritates them. Learning the signs will help you understand their moods better.
Be a True and Patient Friend
People suffering from depression may not take things lightly. Do not say things that will hurt them because they will get angry for something you thought was petty.
At their difficult moments, they need a true friend who will sit with them and share with them the pain that they are undergoing. Please be be tolerant with them because it’s not their fault to be at that state.
Avoid Taking Things Personally
If you notice that your friend is withdrawing from the fun activities you used to do together, ignore the feeling that he or she may be avoiding you.
If he or she canceled your trip in the last minute, ignore that! It’s not about you. Visit her and show her that you can still have fun indoor, maybe watching a movie.
Build a Support Network
Encourage your depressed friend or loved one to seek outside support. No one can support his or her own burden.
To show love, build a community around you and your friend. This will make them feel good knowing that they are not secluded.
True love is so complicated, and so is loving someone with mental illness. Some may wonder what’s the point of going through all that.
Depression puts a strain in any relationship, and for this reason, most of them do not survive. Remember that mental illness does not make them different from other people. Do not make them feel like monsters when they are not.
Being a university student seem fun. In fact, that was my biggest dream – to qualify for campus.
But, look, forget all the fancy lifestyles you have read from campus magazines. It’s actually not real, especially if you don’t know where your next income is going to come from.
I joined campus but had such a fixed budget that if I invited friends for one meal, then I would stay hungry the next meal. But how can you stay on campus without the company of friends?
I don’t like sharing my stories, but I love doing one thing – ENCOURAGINGOTHERS. So, that’s why I’m writing this story.
As I write this, I’m in my small room, somewhere around Jomo Kenyatta University. It is 00:39 AM, Sunday, the 28th day of October, the year 2018. It's my 23rd birthday and I'm happy that I've managed to reach this far.
Enjoy reading and see how possible it is to move from your ho-hum or workplace life, move to paradise, and show the world you can do it.
My Best Friend Secures an Online Job Worth $50!
HEARTBREAK! Yes, I know I should be celebrating or congratulating my closest friend for securing an online part-time job, but it’s not what you think. (hint: he did the unexpected to me.)
My friend landed a job with the Microsoft company and the worst of all is that he never informed me of the opportunity. He was stupid enough to inform me of it after the selection process had ended. I tell you it hurt me soooooo much.
I became jealous and decided to revenge. Tit for tat is a fair game, but does it really work? Read on to find what transpired.
Higher Educations Loan (HELB)
With my rancour still alive, I decided to do something unique. I needed money real quick and not just money, a lot of money.
After figuring how I could earn money quickly and live a fancy lifestyle like my friend, I thought I should waggle my HELB loan.
At that time, people were glued onto betting on games like soccer and they were winning good cash. So, I decided to try.
My account at that time read $200 and I was convinced that I could use the money to stake on single games and win some good cash.
My first match lost and $30 was gone. I tried the next day with $50 and it went too.
I thought I should wait for the weekend and try my luck one more time. The weekend came and there were a variety of games to pick on. Was it the opportunity? I tried one more time.
Oh no! My last stake was gone too. I was done. I remained with only $20 in my account.
$20 couldn’t pay my rent either take care of my upkeep. So, what was I going to do?
Should I call my dad? No, my dad knew very well I had received my HELB loan and it would be difficult explaining where the money had disappeared.
At that time, I was almost sitting for my end semester exam and you can figure out all the stress. I had to pay rent, I had to buy food, and I had to go through my notes in preparation for the end semester exams.
I became dull; all the happiness went down the toilet, and my eating habit became poor – making me lose weight abruptly. I thought about what I could do and finally decided to ask for help from my relatives.
Relatives Never Help at the Time of Need
“Families are messy. Immortal families are eternally messy. Sometimes the best we can do is to remind each other that we're related for better or for worse and try to keep the maiming and killing to a minimum.” - Rick Riordan.
All the same, I reached out to most of them.
For chrissake, others referred me back to my parents, yet I needed their help. Of course, I was aware my parents were alive, but I had a reason for reaching out to them.
After so many struggles, I gave up and knew none of them was going to help.
“Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring, and integrity, they think of you.” - H. Jackson Brown Jr.
I Opted to Sell Most of My Valuables
Looking around, I only had three valuable items; a laptop, a sub-woofer, and my phone. So, I started weighing which was less important.
If I sold my laptop, I would remain poor because it was my source of income.
If I sold my sub-woofer, I would be forced to sell it cheaply and go at a loss.
What of doing away with my phone? Well, I loved chatting with friends. So, selling my phone would mean I would stay lonely. Who loves being lonely?
Goooooooooooooooood! What was I going to do?
After so much thought, I decided I would sell my phone and settle some of my bills. So, I sold the phone at a 70% loss.
If you were once a student (I mean in the 21rst century), then you know how hard it is to lack a phone, especially during the examination periods.
Examination venues and scheduled time always changed out of the blue. If you didn’t have a phone to connect with your classmates for updates, failing to sit for a paper was real, but who cares? After all, you’re a grown-up; you should organize yourself.
It was tough; I mean hard, but thank God I managed to manoeuvre my ways and sit for all the examinations.
My Generous Cousin Decides to Help Out of the Blue
Your greatest contribution may not be something you do but someone you raise, thanks to my cousin, Kevin.
At that time, I felt I was nobody; everything went. I just hated myself.
I, therefore, tried to search for anything I could do online and earn some little income.
I had heard of online writing; the most popular one in my country is academic writing. I decided to try it out.
At least my cousin offered to leave behind his tablet during work days. So, I had free access to the Internet.
I tried researching online writing and searched on Google if I could find some jobs to do.
I did my first job on academic writing and was scammed. My second job? Scammed. My third? Scammed. I lost hope.
I decided to look for something else more genuine. I wanted something that could enable me to land international clients because my faith with local clients had washed away.
Google Search Leads Me to the Right Path
I lost hope and felt that all online jobs were a scam. I did one more Google search to see where it would lead me. I searched, “freelancing in Kenya.” Guess what?
On the home page, my eyes got glued to “FREE Must-Have Mini-Course for Freelance Writers.”I signed up and started receiving emails the next Monday.
I tell you the emails (Free Mini-course) changed my life; I learned a totally new approach to freelancing. I joined some of the Facebook groups Walter Akolo had recommended and started looking for writing jobs.
Walter’s Free Mini-Course Helps me Win my First Job
After two weeks, I got my first client on Facebook. The client wanted me to help him craft articles.
At the time, the client was willing to pay me $2 for every 500 words. The pay was low which forced me to wake up as early as 4 in the morning and sleep as late as 11 in the night.
The reason why I loved the client was that he paid on delivery. Each day, I was to submit 10 articles and he paid instantly.
In FOUR DAYS, I bought a new phone - the first phone I ever bought from hard earned money.
I was happy. I was motivated. I was encouraged, and...I believed I could make money doing what I loved – writing.
Life Hits Me Hard
After completing my first writing project, I went out looking for more jobs. I believed I was smart and could do more writing tasks.
The Facebook groups I joined turned to be my nightmare. The atmosphere in those groups were all about “Freelance Training. Freelance Training. Freelance Training.”
I knew I was better. So, why go for training?
I started opposing violently in those groups and after a few days, I was kicked out in all the valuable groups I was.
I was left with no group. I had no idea where to get jobs because the only place I knew was Facebook groups and they were now gone.
I gave up.
Life After a Tough Experience With Facebook Groups
I gave up on writing for some time to cool my brain. All I did was to watch TV the whole day.
After some time, I decided to visit Walter’s website and read some of his pieces. I got the motivation to continue with freelance writing. As I was going through the pages, I came across Walter’s freelance writing course that went at $30 at the time (the course currently goes for $40.)
$30 was a lot of money to me. I couldn’t afford it easily, but I believed I would one day touch the purchase button.
One day, I decided to open up to my dad about freelancing and made him aware that I had an interest in joining Walter’s course. He asked me how much the course cost and I told him $30. Surprisingly, he congratulated me on my brilliant idea and assured me that he would buy me the course.
One morning, I received an email from Walter, a post on how Daniel was skeptical about freelancing but still succeeded. Daniel was still young which gave me some motivation. Immediately, I finished reading the post, I sent my dad a text. In the text, I explained how badly I needed the course. I promised never to disappoint him.
After some few minutes, the reply popped, “I will send you the money today.”I can’t describe the joy I had. I was very happy.
Denzil Joins Walters Freelance Writing Course
At around 4 pm that day, dad sent me the cash and I immediately forwarded the cash to Walter. I sent Walter my details and he sent me the login details on my email.
Could I wait to start the training the next day? Hell no! This was something I had craved for. So, why would I postpone?
I started reading every detail in the course and the more I read, the more superior I felt. That day I slept at 12 midnight.
How my Freelance Business Took Off After the Training
Within one week, I had landed my first job and a month later, I had landed tons of jobs that made me start outsourcing some.
My biggest challenge was that I never had a writer’s website where I could showcase my skills. Convincing high paying clients was difficult.
The fourth job I got on Upwork was interesting. I had sent a pitch and after two months, the client hadn’t shown an interest in hiring me. Finally, I got a message from on Upwork. The offer came like money in the bank.
After my first milestone, the client decided to work with me outside Upwork. (note: never propose to your client that you work outside Upwork. Let the client propose.)
I got more than $200 for that project which was more than enough to create a simple writer website.
My Website is Hosted
$200 was enough to start a website. I, therefore, decided to set aside $50 for the design.
One morning, one of my U.S clients reached out to ask if I could help him rewrite a website copy.
He was one of my awesome clients. A brief on how we met:))
I asked Johnnie which website hosting company was the best and he suggested a few.
I told Johnnie of my interest to host my website and he offered to host my website. Just like that! Why?
I had been loyal to him; following his instructions to a tee, delivering pure gold and above all, I accepted any mistakes I made.
After a long conversation, he accepted to host my site and sent the login details the following day.
How I Moved to Paradise
Have you ever felt like everything around you is a mess; you look at your small room and you feel like you hate yourself?
Well, that was exactly what I experienced in January 2018. I was sitting in my small room around my college, wrapped up in my duvet, wondering what I’d do next. The world had shown me how cruel it was.
For chrissake, I was just a third-year student, but I could still manage to freelance and earn some income to keep me going.
My biggest problem was that I didn’t know how to become a better freelance writer and command higher rates.
I took time to design my website and make it look more professional and then published some valuable blog posts that my readers ultimately loved and shared and boom! My blog became popular and clients started reaching out to me.
After my blog became popular, I took some few writing courses and my writing improved immensely. This enabled me to double my rates and start earning what I deserved. Weeeeuwee! All the struggles had finally yielded to something.
I could now pay bills, go out, and occasionally host my friends without worrying about anything. I moved into a more spacious room and I’m happy it happened out of my hard work. Thank God.
Lucky me, right? Maybe yes, maybe no. But the most important thing is that you can as well make it like I did.
You Can Also Do It
Because I learned the hard way, I would never want the same thing to happen to anybody starting out. I normally give some FREE basic training to anybody who reaches out to me.
Remember, freelancing is a game and at the same time a profession. You must work smart to be where you want. If you don’t, you’re going to fail terribly.
Implement everything you learn and you will write a story similar to this one or even write a better one than this. C’mon, you can do this. Yes, you!
Of late, landing a job has proved difficult. There’s more demand than supply in the job markets. When writing your resume, always remember that’s what interviewers use to determine your job qualification. It creates a first impression to all potential employers and therefore should be well tailored.
Want to know the 8 foolish resume mistakes that can cost you a job? Let’s jump right in.
1) Not Customizing Your Resume
Tailor your resume as per the job description. Although, you shouldn’t lie, this is an essential key to writing an effective Curriculum Vitae. Ensure you emphasize on your areas of interest. If you are applying for an administrative position, emphasize on your administrative experience
2) Grammatical Errors and Typos
Review your CV at least 3 times. You can have somebody check it out for spelling mistakes before sending. Having another pair of eyes helps spot errors you are not able to pick up. This might seem petty but it gives an impression that you are sloppy. It also shows you didn’t take time to go through your resume.
3) Poor Formatting
Recruiters want to see an attractive resume. A resume with complex fonts can be difficult to read. Use a simple font such as New Times Roman. Avoid dense blocks of texts and edgy graphics. Have other people look at it, edit and revise before sending it out.
4) Giving Irrelevant Information or Repeating Phrases
Avoid unnecessary information like age, marital status, gender etc. Instead, focus on the duties that align with the job description. There’s a thin line between confidence and arrogance so stick to relevant duties.
5) Giving Incorrect Contact Information
This is another mistake that can blow your chances of getting an interview. Note down the correct phone number and email address. Once you have provided your contact, don’t change it later. Changing it can If the recruiter cannot get in touch with you, then you lose that opportunity.
6) Adding a Photo
Avoid this as it makes you look unprofessional. Unless you an applying for an actor or model position, this is unnecessary. The recruiter will not be calling you for an interview because of physical appearance.
7) Too Long Resume
A resume is not a novel. Recruiters look at a lot of resumes and having a long resume can work negatively. It can overwhelm the recruiter and they might not have time to go through it. Divide the resume into sections and bullet points to make it more organized.
8) Lying About Your Duties
Manipulating or over stretching the truth on your work experiences or educational background is inexcusable. This can led to disqualification immediately. Always ensure whatever is captured aligns with your work experiences.
It would be a shame to miss an opportunity because of foolish mistakes. Work on your resume or get a professional writer to do it for you. Avoid these and you’ll be on your way to your dream job in no time!
Setting up your freelance business is a great way to make money. Over time, more people are doing away with other income streams and going the online way.
What does that indicate to you?
With time, the number of service providers (freelancers to be specific) will go up and jobs will not increase. That means, competition will increase with time.
As a smart freelancer, you have to offer the best to your clients…all the time. However, you must learn the ropes to survive the freelance competition.
Relax; I readily shared seven tips, just for that
Here we go
1) Cold Pitch Even More
Here, you go beyond freelance platforms. Well, you may be comfortable, but it doesn’t harm to get a client via this route. Simply use targeted communication to find out prospective clients.
It’s simply playing your marketing uniquely…to reach out to clients. If done regularly and smartly, cold pitching will offer you a constant if not ample number of clients at your service.
Perhaps this might trigger the fear of plenty client work. But you need not worry about that.
Consider subcontracting your extra work to pals or upcoming freelancers within your niche. More so, you can also take the opportunity to stand your ground and ditch low paying and troublesome clients, and retain only the BEST.
2) Market Your Freelance Services
Take it from me; never stop to market your services! As a freelancer, yours is to get your reach to every prospect, across the globe. Its marketing that eases your reach to those prospects. Let them know that you are there, ready to serve them at the best rates. Actually, it’s not hard; it’s simply playing with your target audience psychology.
Just do a simple Facebook post and issue your business card to your friends. If you are smart, consider a simple blog. Your prospect clients across the world will get attracted to your blog. The trick is to convert your readers to loyal customers.
3) Saving for hard Times
Never take this for granted. As a freelancer, you are your own boss and your paycheck is may not be constant, especially when just starting out. The reality is that freelancers start out slow but garner great expertise and income potential with time.
Be sure to save some cash for the hard times. Life is unpredictable. You may wake up to untold ordeals that render you unable to work. You’ll thank me if you had some cash stacked away from immediate reach. That means you only access the resources to sort your stuff like medication and other urgent needs.
Sure, God forbid. You wake up one morning only to find your laptop stolen or find out that it longer functions. Oh…I do not need to remind you of Backups! Keep updated sticks, hard disks and online utilities like Google drive. If you keep your backups strategies in place, you sure are good to go, working anywhere.
4) Be Smart in Increasing Your Freelance Rates, Skills and Minimizing Work
Freelancing amazes me with the learning curves I’ve seen around. Initially, a slow start is okay. Five years down the line, you are a professional in your niche! Keep hunting for more clients and every time; ensure you negotiate a higher rate.
5) Know Your Freelance Costs and Income Streams
Hey, every you must not escape this. Why? Just at least for your taxes. There are numerous tools to keep track of your revenue and cost schedules. For a start, a spreadsheet is okay or you can try out Google sheets.
Knowing these variables is a MUST. Check on your internet costs,and track your records after a year. Ask yourself reasonable questions:
Am I overspending or under spending, and for what reason?
Am I spending more than my pals for the same?
Am I hitting my revenue targets, why or why not?
Grill your mind on these. The ultimate goal is to minimize your costs and maximize on the profit. That way, your business will serve you for more than you can ever imagine.
6) Understand the Freelance Work Cycles
It’s great to understand your freelance work cycles. As a freelancer, get to the bottom of this and know the months with plenty work, and when famine reigns. Based on the cycles, align more of your work to be done during the plentiful months.
To be smart, you can reach out to prospects and secure contracts to keep you busy during the low seasons. If prospects do not do not hire you, keep them as future leads.
7) Build Networks
For a seasoned freelancer, you may have reaped from the benefits of networking. Get your social accounts targeted to your freelance service niche. Get as more connections as you can, and let them know what services you offer.
Google+, Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook and all others are good for connecting with other freelancers.
The networks are also a great avenue for your professional growth. Join the groups and participate. Share your success, challenges, encourage others and help them out. After all, we are there for all of us!
Freelancing is a wonderful avenue if you are coined for it. I’d say it’s not a get rich quick scheme. Since it’s even more competitive than a physical business, you have to be smart: by remaining relevant and maintaining top notch skill and talent.
You have to learn the newest trends and tricks. Get to explore them and remain relevant all through. That’s how to be a competitive freelancer.
As consumers, we tend to purchase what we want rather than what we need. Money without discipline can lead to impulse buying which is an expensive habit. I will show you money-saving tips you can embrace to reduce your monthly expenses.
1. Cook Your Meals and Stop Eating Out
Learning to cook your meals will save money. Weekly meal plans will prevent you from exceeding the food budget. Eat out only on special occasions. If you are a mediocre cook, get some simple recipes and have fun trying them out.
2. Use Cash and Loyalty Points to Purchase
Credit and debit cards will tempt you to exceed the set budget. Using cash will prevent you from overspending. Most supermarkets and retailers have loyalty points plan for their customers. Accumulate the points and redeem them during your next shopping trip.
3. Buy a Filter for Your Tap and Forget Bottled Water
Buying bottled water is an avoidable expense. Buy a water filter and fix it at the kitchen tap to get safe and clean water. You can also use bottles to carry the water when visiting the salon/barber or taking a walk.
4. Downgrade Your Cable TV or Unsubscribe
You probably don’t get the time to watch your pay TV. Why not downgrade to a lower level or do away with the subscription. Watch TV on the internet which is cheaper.
5. Avoid Buying Items on Sale That You Do Not Need
Sometimes items on sale are the slow-moving goods which compete with the popular brands. If you don’t need what is offered on sale, please don’t buy.
A budget is merely an estimate of your planned expenditure against your income for a specified period. Stop spending money without planning for it. Create a list of what you need to spend on and stick to it. A budget identifies unnecessary expenditures which you can avoid.
7. Cancel Gym membership
You can buy work out equipment over time without stretching your finances and do away with the gym. Getting physically fit need not be expensive.
8. Phone Bills
Having both mobile and landline phones is expensive. Stick with the most convenient one and cut off the other. Trust me, and you will be saving yourself some cash.
9. Reduce Utility Bills
You can save on your electricity bill doing the following:
Opening windows during hot months instead of turning the A.C. on.
During cold months, keep the windows and doors closed instead of heating up.
Shorten your time in the shower.
Unplug electric appliances when they are not in use.
Do not leave taps on with water running and ran a bath only when necessary.
10. Slash the Entertainment Bill
Entertainment is a luxury, not a necessity. You can reduce how much you spend by taking up a new hobby or just spending less.
In the long run, it pays to evaluate your spending and improve on areas which blow your hard-earned cash. Little by little these tips become part of the daily routine rather than a punishment. Money saved can be invested, deposited to a savings account or used to offset debt.